Fathers and Daughters: Building Stronger Relationships
In these times of family moral and ethical challenge, fathers should be resolute to show their daughters love and prepared to guide and support them in life. There are pressures for young women, peer pressure to engage in sex, to experiment with drugs, dating, tests to their morals/values and tests of finding their way in life. Daughters are a reflection of father and mother, a genetic blend that is more than just genes and chromosomes. We expect daughters to know that daddy loves them, dads should speak it every day. Back up your words with action or rededicate yourself to renewing a relationship to your daughter.
Foundation of Relationship
Girls love their daddies, the love that is shared is a foundation for future relationships that either blossom healthily or generate to chaos. A father’s relationship with their daughter, built on trust and communication; verbal and nonverbal, a trust that daddy will provide, to shelter, to comfort and be strong in sickness and health. There are wedding vows and there are vows for fathers and daughters unspoken, but emotionally and psychologically reaching. Fathers are not aware of the impact they have on their daughter’s emotional, psychological and relational development. The foundations of their relationship can be developed from open and honest communication, an exchange of ideas and sharing experiences. History will judge fathers by the behavior of their daughter and son, what their choices are in life and the outcomes. A girl’s foundation for relationships are shaped by the rapport with her father and her father’s interaction with the mother. In simple terms, girls who see their mothers being treated disrespectfully sometimes come to tolerate that treatment thus creating a generational lifestyle.
Develop a teaching mind by going on dates with your daughter and teach her how a “gentleman” treats a lady, what expectations they should have and demand. Teach that they deserve respect, teach confidence, teach independence and self reliance. Prepare her for success in family, career, and life decisions. Your daughter will remember what daddy taught her as to how she should be treated and not settle. Building a strong foundation now will establish future success.
Diversity Not Just Black and White
So many of our families have diverse backgrounds that it is not uncommon today to see “blended families”. Each family growing as one and working to make a “blended family” united. Stepfathers you have a responsibility to show that non-biological fathers can be good fathers, it is not easy, you fill a void that transcends biology. There will come a time when your “daughter” will need your help in life and will call on the “father” that she knows. Dads are like the threads to this multicultural tapestry. Keeping the family linked even when cultural and religious challenges seek to cause confusion. There is growing a creation of a true rainbow coalition of humanity under the family unit. The father is the corner stone, the foundation, the rock that weathers the storms of life to keep stability and peace.
Education Builds Success
Teach your daughter they are smart, intelligent, tough and creative. Success is not always sums of money, fancy cars or expensive clothes. Success can also mean obtaining a good education to provide for self; not depending on others to do for you, but being able to do for their own. Education is the key to a woman’s continued self growth and reliability on their skills and talents. Guard your daughters from negativity and low self-esteem, guided them to knowledge and self awareness. Fathers must help prepare daughters for the boardrooms, courtrooms, classrooms, conference rooms, presidential rooms, and surgical rooms. Stated “The best economic stimulus package is a diploma” Wise, B.
There are many challenges, distractions, successes and compromises in parental relationships. Fathers must be more diligent to keep lines of communication open. Daughters need a close relationship with their fathers; in many cases they do not know how to ask for it. Fathers your job is to show your daughter how great she is and how awesome she can become.
Father of Sean and Shae Jackson
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